Let me start off by saying this is not a self-help article…ha! who am i kidding? This is the most self-help article you’ll ever come across, or hopefully you actually see it that way at least.
I know you have probably heard this time and again, that women love a man that displays or exudes confidence levels in the right doses. I say In the right doses because i believe most of the ladies would agree that overconfidence is a turn off and it earns itself a whole new name altogether – “bumptiousness” or as what some would simply like to call, cockiness.
However it is also fair to say that it is not all women that like a confident bloke. It’s not always the must have trait according to some women in a survey i conducted. Surprised? It turns out that some ladies actually prefer quite the opposite when it comes to confidence in a guy. A timid, or shy guy may be exactly what draws interest in certain women.
However in this article we will focus on what a man does that subconsciously shouts “Confidence”.
Confidence comes about from various streams and factors throughout different lifestyles, cultures and social influences. To get an idea of what some of those factors are we have a few listed below, keeping in mind that there are still plenty other various factors we shall cover in future articles.
“A guy with confidence knows the direction he is taking, vision-wise, He knows how to carry himself in public, he knows what he likes and goes after it.“- J. N. M. Founder of Omeko
Confident men take action
Taking action towards anything usually entails the absence of fear and the presence of courage. That aspect of taking action shows not only to you but also to those around you that you have the ability of getting things done. Confidence in yourself is contagious, it swirls onto he next person. How?When you have confidence in yourself, it becomes easier for other people to have confidence in you and confidence in what you say or do. So take action, take Charge.
Confident men take care of themselves.
You will not even need a fat bank account for this one. Personal grooming speaks volume about oneself before you even open your mouth. In this aspect, presentation is everything. It is the story about you told by you in a non verbal manner. So its highly advisable to dress well in clothes that ” fit” you, hairstyle or haircuts that suit you, and last but not least, cologne that represents you as an individual man. Just because it is in fashion does not necessarily mean you have to wear it even though its bound to make you look dorky.
Smell good, invest in a good cologne. Again the less popular the fragrance the better, create your own signature scent. Why? Confident men are Alphas, Alphas don’t follow trends, they create trends. But taking care of yourself runs much deeper than just your outward appearance, it also has a lot to do with the food you consume. Tip: research and get to know what a healthy lifestyle consists of, this will come in handy when you talk in a group too, knowledge makes a man confident and pleasant to be around – Just remember to practice what you preach, BULLSHIT is unattractive.
Confident men make Eye contact.
“Eye contact is a dangerous dangerous thing. But Lovely. Oh, so lovely.” -Anonymous.
Make eye contact with the woman (and/or anybody else) you speak to. Making eye contact eliminates any possibility of shyness or timid behaviour. Being shy maybe cute for a moment but definitely not as a character. Research revealed that making eye contact for at least not more than 3 seconds at a time lets the woman know you are paying attention ( notice i said paying attention, which implies that as she is talking you are actually listening to what she is saying) This in-turn gets you her attention and unconsciously sparks attraction. Making eye contact tells you are sure of what you are saying, you are not shy but rather very confident.
Important Tip: Do Not Stare, staring is creepy. Do NOT be creepy!
Add intelligent humour to your conversations.
Nothing quite like a good sense of humour and wit. I’ve personally found that this works 95% of the time. Intelligent humour be it in a conversation face to face or any form of verbal or even non verbal communication lets the other person know the depth of your thought process, and or your knowledge base. You will need to keep the conversations interesting and the attention span alive, so what better weapon to turn to other than the use of IH.
The whole “intelligent” part of the humour dictates that you know when to use it and when not to.
Confident men Flirt.
Flirting, when done right, boosts self esteem. Learn to flirt. And most importantly learn to flirt the right way. If you already know how to flirt then you’re probably a confident gentleman and you do not need this article for the most part. (Just kidding, you do need this because we have so much more to share.)
Flirting has been known to boost up communication skills, both verbal and non verbal. True fact!
A good communicator is a confident communicator. And also smart banter wins the day everyday.